It Is What It Is…Is It?
“If people are good only because they fear punishment, and hope for reward, then we are sorry lot indeed.”—Albert Einstein
Last week while running errands with my significant other, I
was called an ‘empathy hipster.’ Even as I type the words, I’m unsure how I
feel with the label, but in that moment just as now, I am secretly smiling and
I would like to tell you why.
This past year I experienced what we refer to in our current culture as: "the one-third life’ crisis." In efforts to embrace a more optimistic outlook in life (my therapist would be proud), I now see the glass differently. My eyes have opened and I now question everything. To become aware of your own consciousness is the next evolutionary paradigm of humanity.
It has been decidedly difficult finding a focal point for
this week’s blog, so instead, I would like to share with you a little bit of
everything. Many close to my ‘chosen’ family are aware of our struggles this
past year and how assistance in any form is needed. To those unacquainted to my
background: I am estranged from my family of origin. Why? Because I believe there are some traits of Narcissistic
Personality Disorder (NPD) within members of my family. Manipulation, blackmail
and abuse were and remain the foundation of the household system. Emotional
extortion being a spoon of choice, is only as innocent as propaganda used to
influence and control.
Earlier this week, I reached out, breaking ‘no contact’ with
my parents. It is sad the day you realize your progenitors are such hypocrites that
despise their impoverished roots they are unwilling to accept someone so
similar to them. It speaks volumes regarding their character and the more
family secrets unearthed, the less surprised that I am.
To be rejected by one’s family for choosing happiness over
affluence can cause one to question their own existence. If your approval of
your children is predicated on their beliefs, then you do not value your
children at all—You value your beliefs.
Several conversations with friends have helped shatter the
fairytale image presented by my family, and, I would like to take a moment to express
my gratitude to each of them. Thank you for loving me unconditionally and,
well… for being there. I hope to pay it forward…
It’s all in your head and it isn’t; feelings come and go. It
is our neurobiological makeup, which assists us to either enhance or suppress
emotion. When left alone they last mere seconds. Holding on to negative thoughts and emotions
prolongs their life and our suffering. The first step in any recovery is
acceptance and then you can let it go.
“Do you believe in what the fairytales teaches now? Let’s find out. I read that verse ever after doesn’t have to hurt. And I’m sure it won’t...”— Vacation, Lyrics by ShenendoahT
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